In a Crisis, We Can Learn From Trauma Therapy by Eva Holland, and EMDR links.

In a Crisis, We Can Learn From Trauma Therapy by Eva Holland on the New York Times website. The article talks about E.M.D.R. I listened to a podcast episode by Rich Roll where EMDR was discussed briefly as well, apparently, it came about through the studies/practice of a therapist who would take walks with their patients, and the discussion coupled with looking around had interesting effects.

Anyway, Eva's article is about cultivating resilience in difficult times. It's an interesting thing accessing all sorts of media about wellness and mental health now that the usually neuro-typical are living through the 2020 quarantine and general garbage fire. 

How to Help Someone With Depression - a guide.

The Cut published How to Help Someone With Depression and it has some helpful, broad guidelines for someone who would like to know what it is that they can offer friends and family who are suffering. 

Quitting Sex Was The Best Thing I Ever Did For Myself by Laura Bogart.

Article by Laura Bogart, Quitting Sex Was The Best Thing I Ever Did For Myself - hit the nail on the head when it comes to being a fat heterosexual woman. 

It's terrifying and exhausting even thinking about joining a dating scene that hates fat people, especially women. And with social media, it's so easy to just get pummeled ("UR FAT KILL URSELF").

Nicole Byer and Roxane Gay on Fatphobia (and more, just a great conversation).

 Currently listening to Roxane Gay on Nicole Byer's podcast.

Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting.

"How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily."

I have been thinking a lot about my body, and my weight, and my necessary weigh-loss (for longevity and not dying before my father did).

Currently listening to How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily from How to! With Charles Duhigg.

Ashley thought by now she’d be on top of the world. Once severely overweight, Ashley lost 155 pounds and recently ran her first half-marathon. But when she looks in the mirror all she sees are the imperfections. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Brittany O’Neill, the real-life inspiration for the hit movie Brittany Runs a Marathon. Having undergone a major transformation herself, Brittany knows what it’s like to feel unhappy after you’ve crossed the finish line. Constant self-improvement doesn’t necessarily lead to self-acceptance, Brittany says. Instead, learn to view yourself through your loved ones’ eyes—even say their praises aloud—and soon, you’ll see what they see.

I mean, the podcast showcases a lot of my fears. There's this feeling that I already ruined my body, and there's not much to do about it. There's the pre-exhaustion of knowing how much work it is - I know how hard I worked to weigh 150 pounds - it was an eating disorder and daily exercise. 

It's also just emotional to hear something I already know, which is that the weight loss doesn't somehow placate existentialism, or living in a misogynist world. It won't make me love myself, or my body. 

It just will address certain aspects of my health, and the reality of having to live in a fatphobic world. 

I'll always be a "big girl."